Excerpts From a Diary 35
I’ve got stomach flu.
I’m depressed – we both are. No weed – no money. I’m so tired of this feast & famine business. I swear – my whole life has been feast & famine. I want to think about New Year’s Resolutions but who the fuck cares. I just feel so exhausted. I supposed I could list what I want to do – write more – do my mending promptly – complain less – but what it comes down to is that I’ve got to get my shit together – work harder – write more – no, not just write more – write with purpose – finish a goddam story & get it published. Oh shit – I hate feeling like this.
Later. Paulie came upstairs with a joint. It went fast – ha! Don’t they all! Oh well! Now we’re munching on cheese & crackers.
I feel much better today. I must’ve had a 24-hour bug – so many viruses are floating around.
We got 4 inches of snow last night – it looks so pretty. The sky is deep blue right now – but big clouds are rising up over the lake. We’re supposed to get more snow. I guess it’s really cold out – the radio says so – sitting in my toasty office – looking out the window – I can see people walking by totally bundled up – it’s a beautiful – sunny – cold winter day. The kind of day that makes you think of skiing down a mountain – through virgin powder – well! Back to my typewriter!
We’re out of oil – the last few days have been really cold & it got used up faster than we anticipated. It doesn’t matter anyway – there’s more debts than money – I’m so tired of this song & dance! I’m so bummed out – I’m so tired of feeling like this. I can say & I will say that I’m not gonna worry anymore cuz worrying does no good & I’m gonna be cheerful no matter what & be thankful 10 times more for what we have & I can do it – put on a good attitude like a pair of new stockings & I will do it – but it doesn’t change the feeling – just covers it up & makes it look good. “Casey Jones” is on the radio – the same train that Teddy & I have ridden on too many times – “The trouble with you is the trouble with me” –
Felix was over today – the first time in over a week – he’s had bronchitis – aggravated by smoking & his allergy to cats. I missed him more than I thought I would.
Before he left, I asked him to give me a ride to UB – to pick up a schedule of classes – which he was happy to do – he waited while I ran over to Hayes A to get it. Of course there was a line – nothing changes! Felix gave me a ride home too – now I have a hot cup of tea & some cookies & the schedule spread out in front of me – maybe I’m going back to college.
Evening. & then again – maybe I’m not. I called to make an appointment to see an advisor & was told it was too late to apply for classes – I don’t remember having to re-apply the last I time I re-entered school. Oh well. That’s life. So I’m gonna apply – get all the paperwork in order – get financial aid – get everything ready to go totally – money – make the money –
A bright sunny day. I’ve just finish straightening up the house – doing dishes – putting things away. The kitty-cats are being really bad this morning – into everything – into places they know very well not to go! It’s so hard disciplining them!
I have the electric heater on in my office – it takes about a half hour to get warm in there. I’ll smoke some bowls – drink a cup of coffee – & read in the meanwhile.
11:10 a.m. Hard at work. It’s been a really nice day so far – although I had trouble waking up this morning – a large glass of Pepsi fixed me up – then a cup of coffee – & then another glass of Pepsi with breakfast – 2 poached eggs on toast – & then a cup of tea. After my bath, I laid down & cat-napped for 15 minutes, then got up & washed my washed my hair. Now I’m in my office – pounding the keys of my typewriter – while the kitty-cats explore my desk. They’re my buddies – they hang out with me most of the day. I have to cut their claws today – they’re really long & really sharp! I have to wait until they’re sleeping. They’ve been running around all morning so soon they should be settling down for a snooze.
Time for another cup of tea.
Yesterday when Teddy got out of work, we went over to Northtown to look at new trucks – we ended up test-driving & then signing papers for a 1988 Mazda 5-speed King Cab truck – this morning I took all the paperwork down to the credit union – hopefully by Thursday, we’ll know if the loan’s been approved or not – I hope so! We need a new truck so badly & this one is so very nice!
Naturally, when I was down at the library, I got out 8 books. Of course – half the books I was looking for weren’t on the shelves or weren’t owned by the library. I also stopped in at the law office & said hello to Anna & Evelyn. I really miss working there. It was the perfect balance to my dancing life.
Time to eat lunch – leftover chicken wings & julienne potatoes. Then a short nap – then work in my office. At least I have the time to write now. I am getting more done than I ever have. What a nice life I have!
Today we took Shadow & Missy to the vet’s. We should have taken them a long time ago but oh well – anyway – they got their shots & were checked for worms – which they have – we had to give them pills when we got home. Shadow got sick about an hour later – the poor baby – he puked in the living room. After that, he crawled behind the gas burner in the fireplace & fell asleep. He seems better now – he’s up & he’s playing with a rubber ball. Missy’s curled up next to me – I’m sitting in the gold easy chair. They’re both kinda zonked though. We found out how much they weighed too – Shadow’s 4.5 pounds & Missy’s 3 pounds 12 ounces. On the subject of weight – I went to the doctor’s on Wednesday & I weigh 137 pounds! Time to go on a diet –
Yesterday I inventories my books – I have 1557. When I was counting the books on what I call “Living Room Bookcase #1” I decided to rearrange them a little – which turned into a much bigger job – what I ended up doing was removing the Panasonic blaster from the middle of the shelf & putting on the back of my desk. My AM/FM radio died a few weeks ago & I’ve been getting by with a junky AM transistor radio. It’s so nice to have tunes again – with a bass & treble & equalizer! & a tape deck! Now my office is complete!
It looks like we may not get the new truck. The loan was approved but we need a co-signer. Teddy bullied me into calling Mom & Bob which of course I did not want to do. I knew they’d say no & of course they did. & not only did Bob say no – he was a real dick about it too. I wish I hadn’t asked – I really do. I wish Teddy hadn’t made me do it. I am so sick of tired of this kind of shit. I know the outcome before it happens & I don’t want to go there.
Once again – madness descends – it’s pouring rain – Missy’s in heat – she’s not the only one – I want to work but I can’t do it – I am walking around the house – can’t concentrate – can’t do anything at all –
I’m dying for a shot & a beer. My tits ache – I’m so close to my period – how I wish it would start & be done! Oh well – I have no ambition – just staring at the rain pounding the windows – thinking about past lovers – hard fat cocks – I’m wet but it’s not blood – not yet –
I have $1.35 in change. Enough for a beer at Falco’s – ’course it’s pouring & I should wait for Felix’s call – if he calls – so I can hustle some weed out of him – we’re out again – maybe if he calls soon I can hustle a few dollars & a ride to Falco’s as well – just wanna sit at the bar & listen to sad tunes & think – & drink & think –
The tea-kettle’s whistling. Oh well –
I’m in such pain – 3 parties Friday night – 3 parties Saturday night – plus my period – I was totally wiped out Friday – I slept all day – partied all night – I felt even worse on Saturday – slept all day – partied hearty – danced wonderfully – how can I not? – it’s impossible not to put everything into performance – of course I was well-fueled. But today I’m really hurting. I twisted my bad knee – I also bruised it – I bruised my other knee – I pulled muscles in my left thigh – I hurt so – my knee is absolutely killing me. I’m going to have to take the last painkiller before I go to bed. I can’t get comfortable – my knee is throbbing – oh boo hoo hoo!
Just thinking about last Thursday – wondering if I’ll be with him again – or if it was all a dream – Jesse! Jesse! Jesse! – oh insane desires – wants – needs – I’m so frightened sometimes – but the ecstasy – the ecstasy –
Around 3 a.m. Monday I woke up completely sick – cough/nasal congestion – body aches – hyperventilating – completely miserably. I remained in bed all day. Monday night – Teddy came down with it. He didn’t go to work yesterday nor today but he’s going to go tomorrow – he’s getting on my nerves! Oh – that’s heartless – I know – it’s just – it’s bad enough being sick without having to nurse-maid someone else. I feel lots better today although I’ve lost my voice.
The answering machine has been on all week – Jesse’s called a few times & left stupid messages about buying or selling bags – not actually saying anything of course – he never talks on the phone – which is pissing Teddy off to no end since there isn’t anything happening & there’s isn’t any reason for Jesse to be calling – I know why he’s doing this of course. It’s the beginning of the month & he’s in town, collecting rents. On Monday he played “Lo Siento Mi Vida” on it – luckily Teddy wasn’t around to hear it & hasn’t rewound the tape back far enough to hear it. I should erase it but I want to hear it again. We’ll be back to normal again soon. Jesse will be back to work soon & he’ll be too busy to be chasing me – whether or not he wants me or not.
Teddy went to work this morning – he’ll be home soon – he said he was going in & doing the “bare minimum” & coming back home. Today is pay day – he was going to work from 8 to 10 then grab his paycheck – cash it – go to K-Mart – the grocery story – stop at Danielle’s – I told him to blow off all those errands but naturally he feel he has to – he’ll be grouchy as a bear when he gets home. I had to call him at work – I just left a message for him to call me before he left – he was pretty pissed when he called – like I was bothering him or something – well, gee, I’m sorry but I need a new wash basket since one of the cats pissed my nice old cardboard one last night. I was pretty upset to discover that – I asked Teddy to empty the cat box when he was doing the garbage but I guess he didn’t want to – well, that’s life, I guess. I cleaned it today, of course. I’ve straightened up the house & am doing laundry. I still have no voice & I feel exhausted after only a small effort but other than that I’m feeling much better.
I was also able to make contact with Jesse this morning. Of course – now I have to wait for next week – but at least he’s got to come back in next week to get money from tenants that didn’t have it this week. & I thank the Goddess for all Her help.
It’s really cold. It’s winter again. Being out of oil wasn’t bad when the temperatures were in the 40s & 50s – most of January – but now it’s cold cold cold! Plus – having three broken windows – two in the kitchen – one in the bathroom – which has been broken two years – it kills me because they get upset downstairs if the rent is late even one day – Paulie will be up here pressuring me for sex – but not once have they repaired anything here – I have been trying to get those windows fixed since they broke!
I think I am having a relapse today – I feel dizzy & disoriented – I slept until 10:45 this morning – I would have slept longer except I thought Teddy would be home – he just called & said he was gonna work until noon – well that’s commendable working – working while you’re sick – talk about building up brownie points – but boo hoo! I want him here!
We’re not going down to Lackawanna anymore. Number 117 Wilkebarre Street was busted the other day. That’s not Darryl’s house – he’s 127 or something – but definitely, things are heating up down there & who needs that? Teddy owes Darryl $80 but we haven’t heard from him all week. Either his brother Julius paid him off – Julius owes us $95 – or they’re all laying low – or both. It’s just as well. With so few jobs we can’t afford coke anyway – might as well quit – get my health back – start living like real people again.
Still cold. I’m wearing all these clothes – a t-shirt, thick ankle socks, a flannel shirt & my old green bathrobe. & of course my sneakers – the floor’s incredibly cold. I sit or lie on 2 sleeping bags – covered by my old stag blanket, my current stag blanket & an afghan. We red, watch TV & sleep. Even if we weren’t sick, we probably wouldn’t be much more active – it’s too cold. Oh, for a tank of oil!
“Old Yeller” is on TV. We’ve had another monotonous day – rise late – eat a bit – take a nap – wake up – Teddy’s just out of the tub. I’ll go in for my bath in a bit. I feel better than I’ve felt all week. I know I’m feeling better – I’ve started noticing the dust that’s built up. Tomorrow I’ll clean the house – not heavy duty cleaning but dusting & vacuuming – straightening things up – then I’ll write. I’ve missed a whole week of work.
It’s getting dark. A few snowflakes float out of the sky. This is the time of year you start longing for spring – want to open the windows – wear shorts – go barefoot. It can’t come too soon for me!
Later. It’s been snowing for several hours now. It looks so pretty – falling in the street-light. I guess it’s still gonna be winter for awhile. Oh well. It’s really coming down – maybe we’ll get a blizzard! We haven’t had a whole bunch of snow all at once in a long time. Not for several years. If it’s gonna be winter, it might as well be snowy as well as cold. Of course my days go by the same way no matter what the weather does. Just different pictures outside the window.
It snowed all day yesterday & all last night – about 9 inches – schools are closed – Minnesota Ave is just two ruts. I had to push Teddy’s truck to get it off a patch of ice under the snow – the roads are really slippery – it was freezing rain before it was snow. It’s not snowing now – although I guess we’re gonna get more snow later. The boughs of the trees outside my windows are bowed way down with snow. It looks so pretty. When I was outside this morning, I thought it was really nice – everything covered with snow – a light breeze off the lake – ya know, it’s only really cold when the wind’s blowing – & it’s pretty calm right now.
I got figure out what to do today – I’m out of cartridge – I called John Grady yesterday & he said he’d be out today but with the snow who knows. I supposed I could attack that basket of mending – yuck! – but I think I’ll look around for something else first.
At 9:30 this morning the phone rang – the answering machine picked it up – I heard what I thought was Jackson Browne – it was pretty tinny – singing, “She stands in the window of the house where no one lives & I sit in the car across the way” – I was wondering when Jesse was going to call – I waited a moment or two, then called back. It was good to hear his voice – but given the weather, who knows when I’ll see him.
I just watched the weather report – it’s getting cold – colder! The wind gusts are going to be 30 to 40 miles per hour – with a wind chill of minus 10. Tonight the wind chill will be minus 30 to 40. I just made the bed with clean sheets – maybe I should have used flannel sheets! Tomorrow will be really cold – only a high of 13. & I wanted to go to the library? Maybe I should rethink my plans. I would hate to leave the kitty-cats in a cold apartment all day. Well – we’ll see.
Missy’s looking out the window. She loves to watch everything that goes on. She’s such a little cat. Shadow’s getting big – he’ll be a bruiser, for sure! He’s always into something he shouldn’t be – Missy’s never in trouble. I have to spank him this morning – he was on the dining room table – chewing a plant! Every time I open a door – especially the refrigerator – or I’m doing something in the kitchen – he’s right there – underfoot – trying to steal whatever he can. Oh, I love him! I love both of them so! I pick each of them up & hug & kiss them a thousand times a day.
Well – time to get back to work. Work on my story – then lunch – then a nap – then bake cookies. I want to be taking them out of the oven when Teddy is getting home. Fresh-baked cookies are always great on a cold day.
Afternoon. I just looked outside – it’s a fucking blizzard! Snowing – blowing snow – you can barely see across the street! The few people – students, mostly – who are out walking around – are totally bowed down – what a drag to be out on such a day!
Later. The phone woke me up – it was Teddy – his truck won’t start – he can’t find anyone to give him a ride & he’s hasn’t had lunch yet. I suggested walking to the plaza next door & then trying the truck again. John Grady called soon after that – he won’t be able to get out here before tomorrow. Oh well – I guess I won’t be going anywhere tomorrow. I wonder what will happen with Teddy’s truck. I can’t help but think that if Mom & Bob – especially Bob – hadn’t been such jerks about co-signing that loan Teddy’d be driving his new truck now.
I’m baking him cookies. No matter what happens – if he finally starts the truck – or it won’t start & he has to get a ride home – he’ll be crosses than a bear – so maybe these little jewels will cheer him up.
Evening. Teddy just got home – he’s in the grouchiest mood known to man! Luckily, I just spent the last hour with Paulie – doing bowls & beers & reminiscing about old stoned days – marijuana brownies & high school & getting wasted in various parks. All druggies have the same memories – only the names & the locations differ.
I got a joint out of Paulie to share with Teddy, so that will cheer him up. My cookies won’t – they’re a mess! An experiment that did not work! Oh well – they’ll still taste good – even if they look like lumps of jelly & mud.
Cold, cold, cold! The thermometer in the living room read 55 this morning – that’s as low as it goes, so who knows how cold it really was! It reads 59 now & the heater’s been on for over an hour. It was windy all night but now it’s died down & the sun is shining – if it remains like that, the room will warm up nicely – but the weather has been anything but calm lately! Seems every hour the picture outside my window changes.
It’s cold in my office – I put the heater in there for an hour this morning but it barely touched the chilly air – moved it around a little – but I’m warmly dressed & have on my gloves with the finger-tips cut off – drinking the last cup of coffee.
I hope John Grady shows up early with my cartridges. I have so much work to do & I’m dying to start. I’ve done prep work & busy work for two days now & I’m getting tired of it. I found a notebook filled with poems I’d forgotten about – letters – copies of things I’ve had published – I want to rework some of these gems. I want to work! I want to buy a case of cartridges cuz I’m sick of running out – a case costs $60 – so obviously I’m not doing it soon – but I’m going to!
It’s beginning to snow again.
Later. I know what to do – I’ll take a nap. I feel so tired out anyway – it must be the cold. I had really lousy dreams last night too – I had to keep waking up to get myself out of them. Maybe after a little refresher I’ll feel like doing something – or maybe John will have arrived.
Jesse just called. I was sleeping on the couch in my office & I almost missed his call & I was half asleep when I answered – “I can just go back to Middleport if you’re too tired to see me,” he said – but how could I ever say no to that bedroom voice? He’s on his way over – joy, joy –
All the radio stations have been playing lots of Beatles music all week cuz it was 25 years ago that they came to America – I remember it well – even though I was only 4 years old. But you don’t forget something like that. The Beatles colored my entire childhood. I wouldn’t be who I am today without the Beatles – especially John Lennon. It’s so wonderful to be hearing all this great music!
After a few days of thaw, it’s snowing again. I’ve had a headache every day for days & days – I can’t remember not having one. It’s the usual pain – pressure behind my eyes – sinuses – left temple – my left side in general – but recently, I’ve been suffering a new one – behind my right ear. It doesn’t throb – it burns – I’m not describing it very well – but it’s an intense pain.
I have no energy. I sit at my desk – working – & end up with my head in my hands. So many things to do – oh well, get back to work. Maybe I’ll feel better later on.
I went to the library yesterday – I got out 11 books – I met up with Jesse & got really wasted. He was in town to fix tenant’s house – we met up at the Colmore Lounge. I had never been there before but it’s a nice place. I was doing shots with the boys & generally entertaining everyone – I hate to admit it but I don’t remember coming home. I remember waking up on the couch when Teddy came home. I’m bruised – a giant bruise is appearing on the right cheek of my ass – I vaguely remember falling off a bar stool somewhere & laughing about it – & I scraped my knees – I must have been totally gone. I do remember Jesse had some painkillers & he shared them with me & that’s probably why I got so wasted so fast. Booze & pills – what a combination. It’s gonna be murder dancing tonight but it’s my own fault so I can’t complain. I wish there was a way I could cover up these scrapes & bruises. It looks like Teddy beat me up. It looks like someone beat me up. I honestly don’t remember what happened. Of course Teddy was pissed off at me & I don’t blame him.
I was hungover & sick all night. I spent it on the couch – throwing up into the waste basket. I am totally ashamed – I don’t remember ever feeling like this before. & the questions I have to ask myself & can no longer ignore are – why am I so stupid? What is the matter with me?
Andy from the Colmore Lounge just called – I must have made quite an impression on him! If I remember correctly, he’s quite a cutie-pie. I don’t remember giving him my number but maybe I gave him my card. Always doing business.
My left knee’s infected. I just took a long soaky bath & let it pus up real good & then cleaned it well. I have a giant bruise on my ass too – Teddy told me that it was barely noticeable & then at the first party Saturday night, the guy who hired us said, “Hey, ya know you got a bruise on your butt?” I had to laugh. By the time we got to Sorrentino’s, I was feeling no pain – it was the joke of the evening – me going to the library & getting bombed! Oh well – I won’t repeat that trick too soon!
Well – today’s the full moon. I’m gonna meditate & recite poetry to the Goddess & then bake cookies. Tomorrow I’ll write – tomorrow & the rest of the week. & read the books I got from the library – I got some really good ones! Right now I’m reading The Spiral Path – really good essays on women’s spirituality, Goddess-worship & witchcraft. I’m learning so much!
I just put Teddy to bed. I had to clean up my mess – I’ve been going through newspapers & magazines – clipping articles & recipes – then get his lunch ready for tomorrow & prep the coffee. I just sat down with my book & realized how tired I am – it’s been another busy day.
The answering machine had music on it this morning – too garbled to tell what it was – I returned the call with “Love is a Rose”. A later call filled in the blanks from Friday. Boy, did I have a party or what! I guess the sex was good, too.
A quiet afternoon. Paulie must have passed out – I hear no music. Teddy’s doing the taxes on the coffee table – boy, the common people are getting fucked! Sometimes I think it’s better not to make a lot of money – not to own anything – house, property, car, business, etc. All the family-type deductions are gone.
It’s snowing. The kitty-cats are sleeping. Today I hung their catnip mouse from the ceiling with a piece of yarn & they’ve been playing hard! So hard they fell asleep!
I’m reading & taking notes & trying to decide if I really want to go back to college. I mean – I really do – but what do I ultimately want to do? I have to admit that I have no real idea.
I woke up with the worst headache – another migraine – I stayed in bed until 10 a.m. – felt awful until Teddy got home around noon – & it hung in there most of the afternoon – I took a nap from 4 to 5 & it was finally gone. These headaches are getting worse – I have to see a chiropractor – the pain in my back is one thing – my hip & my knees – but I can’t deal with a headache.
I’ve been arranging my poems into a book – I’ve got more than one book – it’s all I’ve been doing lately – I was up until almost midnight working on it – I didn’t want to go to bed – but I was falling asleep sitting up. I worked all this afternoon & this evening – I’ll probably work until bedtime this evening too. No parties tonight – although I wish someone would call – we could certainly use the money.
Another quiet day. I worked on the poetry book – I still have no title – & arranged 3 copies. I want to give one to Mark Miles – I also thought Harry G. & maybe Anna. Or maybe Jon. I’m not sure – besides – I just want to get it done. It was such a chore just picking the poems – arranging them by type & deciding how many & which ones – a most enjoying chore – but a chore nonetheless. I’m not gonna try to publish this book or anything – most of the poems are pretty old – it’s a childhood/early loves collection of stuff – but it was a good exercise putting it together – mixing it up chronologically – using the best poems for what I wanted to say. I’m already planning the next one – to tell the truth, I can hardly wait until this one is done – so I can start the next one. The next one’s about dancing & dancers – the men in the strip joints – the hustlers, the players – the life. I’ve been writing poems about dancers for years – going through the poems – again & again, I’d look at a poem & think – hey, this would be good – a lot of the sad songs – the angry poems.
I’m just afraid I’ll run out of cartridge. I have to pay John off – the check I wrote him bounced – & I have to get more corrector too. Boo hoo! Oh well.
I want to work on it more – I’m doing re-writes – but I have to dance tonight & I should really rest my eyes. So what am I doing to relax? I’m reading!
I’ve been working on “the girlhood of anna brangwen” all morning – well, since my bath & breakfast – I’m not getting anywhere. I printed out what I wrote & put it away. Sometimes that’s the best way – let it sit – let it ferment. Besides, I have others to work out – “tina” – “appleton” – “the knight of cups”. I dreamed about Jon last night – I dreamed I was watching a video of his band playing. The Knight of Cups. Maybe I’ll work on that one next.
At 9 a.m. the phone rang & the machine picked it up – whoever it was hung up but I knew who it was Jesse anyway. I called back & left a section of “Fast Car” on his machine – he called right back. Will I see him today? Do I really want to? I don’t know. But these feelings inside of me – I can’t control them – nor I want to, really. I think of Teddy & I feel so sad – I love him so much – so much! I know he’s the only husband for me. But I can’t let my body die either.
It’s snowing. It’s been cold & windy all day – March certainly came in like a lion! I went downtown today – to drop off papers at the loan office for a new truck for Teddy – it was freezing downtown! Ya know – that ice cold blast off the lake! Oh, I am more than ready for spring! Maybe if March goes out like a lamb, it’ll be warm, too!
It’s cold – cold! Winter is really hanging on this year! That January thaw seems like years ago! Plus – the sky is completely clouded over – no sunshine at all – the sunshine coming through the windows makes a big difference on how warm it gets in here & how fast. Whoa! What a sentence! Oh well – you know what I mean! Back to the subject of weather – it’s also windy – it’s just plain cold! Oh, spring! Hurry the fuck up!
I’m out of cartridge again – seems like I’m always out nowadays. I’m almost done with my book, too! I might call it “Jacob’s Ladder”. I’m not sure. I have only one more poem to write – I’ve been writing it – “the girlhood of anna brangwen” – yesterday I wrote “the knight of cups” – about Jon. Anyway, I’m not happy about being out of cartridge again – another detour! Another flat tire! – but I’m gonna start work on the next book – about dancing – I’ll be reading poems & taking notes all day. I’m in the living room which is the warmest room in the house. I’ll read poems – take notes – smoke joints – drink cups of tea – watch TV – do some yoga. My back really hurts today. I took a 222 about a half-hour ago – it’s just kicking in. I wish I had some of the good PK’s that Jesse has! But oh well! Even though I feel bad, I made myself look pretty – that always makes me feel better. I’m wearing a pink turtleneck, jeans, blue socks, white high-tops & I did my hair in a French braid with blue combs & a pink ribbon. I did my make-up in pink & blue, too. I put on little pink hoops as well!
Missy’s in heat again. She’s crying – walking around the house – climbing the bookcase – she’s been presenting herself to Shadow but he could care less. Actually – he looks confused – like, why is she doing this? He started licking her cunt & she went nuts! He looked more confused than ever! Oh well – in two weeks they’re getting spayed & neutered. Then there’ll be no more confused, horny, upset kitties at this address. Except me.
Yesterday was so warm & spring-like – well actually, yesterday started out as an ice storm – everything was completely covered in ice. But after the ice melted, the temperature soared! It stayed warm into the evening – even into this morning, when it was raining – but it got colder as the day progressed & now everything’s covered in ice again. The cars approach the red light so cautiously! There’s really very little traffic. It’s supposed to get really cold tonight & tomorrow – but by the end of the week, it should be close to 50. Could it be spring? I was down cellar on Friday, checking on my bike – last year the tires were flat but this year they seem fine! Maybe by Friday it’ll be warm enough to ride! Maybe there’ll be an early spring! Typical thoughts for March.
Tomorrow I’m gonna do laundry & clean out closets & drawers. Whatever I don’t wear or doesn’t have sentimental value is going to Goodwill or the Salvation Army. I have clothes I haven’t worn in years – they don’t fit anymore or I don’t really like them – so why am I hanging onto them? I’m also – finally – gonna mend the clothes that need mending – some of those have been sitting in the “mending basket” for almost a year!
I was upset because I didn’t make enough money last night to pay off my bill with John Grady so I won’t be getting new cartridge any too soon – so I won’t be able to write – but maybe it’s just as well – I do have lots of sewing to do. It’s just I’d rather be writing!
Tired & achy. I got up & made Teddy his coffee & lunch & then took a bath. I was going to wash my hair & then eat but I laid down on the couch for “just a minute” & then I was waking up & it was 11 a.m.! I got up & dressed & ate but I just wasn’t with it – I just kind of puttered around. I feel – I don’t know – mildly depressed – sad – detached – incomplete. Melancholy. There’s any number of reasons for this malaise – the continuing cold weather – being broke – burn-out from the weekend – my bad knee – my bad back – my migraines – my emotional turmoil – there wasn’t a tune on the answering machine this morning – I know it’s just as well – the whole thing was going too fast. Just like before. Spinning out of control.
Cold! The thermometer says 8 but the wind chill is minus 25. & the wind is really blowing! You can’t see out of any of the windows – they’re all iced up – it’s freezing in this apartment! My hands & fingers are so cold I can barely hold this pen. I’m depressed. I’m supposed to clean the house today – that means doing the hardwood floors & vacuuming the walls, etc. – but I don’t feel like it. Today’s garbage day but I’m gonna wait until noon to put it out – the wind’s supposed to die down by then.
I just left “I’m Leavin’ It All Up To You” on his answering machine. I felt like leaving “You’re No Good”. Maybe tomorrow.
Late morning. He just called. I vented about my misery & woe & depression. “Get it off your chest, I’ll listen.” He wants me to go to Florida with him. Yeah, right. I could really use a Florida vacation but certainly not with Jesse. As much as I would love to go to Florida – or anywhere – with Jesse. I would go to the end of the world with him – “in a white petticoat” – as Mary, Queen of Scots famously said – but let’s face it — it would be the kiss of death to everything I know & love. & what about Doreen? & it the kids? I know he didn’t mean a word of what he was saying. I wonder how many of those PK’s he’s chewing. He said he would bring me some the next time he comes over.
A few minutes after I hung up with him, Teddy called. He’s gotta work until 4 today. I told him it’s only 55 in the back of the house. I feel better though – Teddy always cheers me up. & I know I’ll be seeing Jesse soon.
I might as well sit in the living room – where it’s warm – with the gas burner – & the sun shining in the windows – & read. I wish I could go to Falco’s & have a drink but it’s too cold to walk & it’s too cold to leave the kitty-cats shut up in the back of the house with no heat. Even I’m not that selfish.
It’s just – end of the winter blues.
Evening. Teddy called me at 2:30 & told me that the loan for the truck has been approved! He got home at 4:30 & has been walking a foot off the floor all evening. We just finished dinner – time for the after-dinner joint.
Lots warmer today. Everything is melting. I’m in a much better mood today – although rather bored. Not that I don’t have plenty to do – cleaning closets – the ever-present mending – I just don’t feel like doing any of it. I did dust & vacuum, straighten up & house & put in a load of wash. But basically – I’m very lazy today.
“Part-Time Lover” was on the answering machine this morning – I was in the tub when it came on – it annoyed me – what the fuck does he want? I’m married for heaven’s sake! & so is he! But I called him back after I dried off & put on my body lotion & baby powder & my bathrobe. He’s in the same mood – lazy – wants to blow off the day. I told him to stop by if he’s in the neighborhood – but somehow I doubt I see him.
I went for a walk today. It’s still chilly – 30’s-ish – overcast & sunny – typical Buffalo sky – a little bit of everything – but nice. The air is cold but it smells like spring.
Naptime. The kitty-cats are settling down in their little “house” – an overturned box – with holes cut out on the top & sides. I’m curled up on the couch with a cup of tea & a book. I’ll probably snooze too.
It’s already 30 & sunny – not a cloud in the sky. It’s supposed to be a gorgeous weekend. I’m gonna take a walk later on. I wish Teddy was picking up his truck today – instead of next week – such lovely weather in which to take a drive! Oh well – next week’s weather might be just as nice. I hope so!
I should really dust & vacuum the house – it’s kinda a mess – but I’m so lazy today. Who cares? There are books to be read – poems to be written! Actually – I’ve got a lot of reading to do – if I want to return my books to the library on time. So I’ll read – plus there’s a Myrna Loy movie on at 9:00 a.m. on TNT. Or maybe I’ll do what the kitty-cats are doing – sit in the front windows & watch the traffic go by – watch the birds & the squirrels. Such a nice day – I think I’ll get myself another cup of coffee & roll a joint.
Afternoon Took a lovely nap with the kitty-cats – floating in & out of consciousness – listening to birds chirping & the sounds of the traffic – motorcycles – dreaming a lush fantasy – waking wet –
The phone woke me up. A job for tonight! I am so happy! We had no jobs booked before next Saturday night & we’re broke – this’ll get us a bag of weed & some groceries for next week – I hope the tips are good!
I just cut the kitty-cats’ claws. They struggle so much! It would go a lot faster if they wouldn’t fight. It’s not like I’m hurting them – I only snip off the sharp tip of each claw. I gave them a few cat treats afterward.
A lovely spring morning. It snowed early this morning but then it warmed up. Everything’s melting. It’s chilly but sunny – clear blue sky & no clouds.
Afternoon. Teddy’s out going to Wilson Farms for pop & ChicknRoost for wings. We didn’t work last night so it’s been a long, leisurely day.
We did work Friday night – a last-minute gig – for a bunch of assholes! It was the most hostile crowed I’ve had to deal with in a very long time. After the party was much more fun. Curtis – from The Canteen – stopped over – I haven’t seen him in two years or more. He had some really good coke & he was in a sharing mood. He wanted us to go to this bar – Marchi’s – on East Delavan Ave – & ya know, we don’t do that sort of thing much anymore but I guess the moon & the stars were in the right alignment or something – anyway – we went & we got blasted! I mean, really! After the bar closed, we went to a party at this guy’s house – actually his garage – there were loads of people & everyone was doing lines & smoking joints. I’m not sure when we left – of course, yesterday was quite hungover. But what a good time!
Just back from a 40-minute walk. I walked over to UB – then to Main Street – Main to Highgate – Highgate to Parkridge – then home. It’s a lovely day – still cool, but sunny & oh! the air smells so good! I breathed in giant lungfuls. It made me feel better – I have so much on my mind – even though I’m in a good mood – I feel pensive – sad.
I went over to the Amherst Campus today – I took one of the UB busses. They’re a lot nicer than when I went! Lots have changed over there – lots of new buildings – gaps filled in – although there’s still stuff that need to be built – but it looks like a campus now – not a bunch of buildings stuck in a field. I spent 2 hours in Lockwood Library. I was able to locate some of the books that the Buffalo & Erie County Public Library doesn’t have – although I was trying to locate too many – since I can’t take them out – not being a matriculated student – I have to read them there. Not thoroughly of course – but I’m looking for certain things – I have questions all ready to be answered – I took a million notes! I want to go back on Thursday, if it’s not raining. Tomorrow’s supposed to rain. Today was gorgeous – sunny & upper 50s. I’m thinking of finishing my English degree & then getting a Masters in Women’s studies – I want to study Women’s Spirituality more thoroughly. I was thinking Divinity School but I would have to study Patriarchal religions & I think that might piss me off too much!
A very windy morning. Very warm – but soon to drop in temp – a cold front is moving through. Perhaps some soon tonight.
Sad today. I dreamed of Jesse last night. Standing in the hallway – a hallway somewhere – it was dark – nighttime – I had slipped out of bed to meet him – we stood in the darkness – our hands & lips lightly touching – he ran his fingers over my bare shoulders – we made love – standing there – my back flat against the wall – kisses that lasted until I woke up – I laid in the darkness – petting Shadow – who was wedged in between Teddy & me.
Then I was asleep again & I was at Gramma Mac’s – eating dinner with the family. PapaMac was there – not eating – not saying much – but smiling a lot. He was seated next to Rocco – at the end of the table. I was next to Rocco. We were eating tiny meatballs & fat noodles in a cheese sauce. There were other dishes too – I can’t remember what now. After dinner I was looking at some books – deciding which ones I wanted – when Helena burst in, saying they were all hers – then Mom started in on me too. I remember screaming at Mom, “You’ve always taken her side!” I ran out & jumped on my bike & rode away but I had only gotten as far as the church when I realized that my tires were flat. Rocco rode up behind me & I woke up –
Teddy’s getting out of work at 11 a.m. – we have to run downtown to the Credit Union to pick up the loan papers – then to the insurance office – then to Northtown – Teddy’s beside himself – he’s so happy. I really ought to get to work – although I’ve been a busy girl already this morning – the second load of wash is in – the refrigerator just finished defrosting – but I’ve got lots to do yet so I’d better go.
We got the truck! It is so nice – drives so smoothly – so quiet – Teddy is beside himself – he’s so excited – like a little boy on Christmas with his brand new bike. He’s been on the phone all evening. He wants to party!
I’m at my office desk – listening to The Who on the radio. The kitty-cats are sitting in the right-hand window looking at birds – looking for birds, actually – it’s a very still morning. Last night, we had a wild storm – thunder, lightning, rain, snow, sleet – right now everything outside is covered with ice. If it was sunny, it’d look like fairy-land, but it’s completely overcast. It’s quite dark – it’s supposed to rain & snow some more. Winter’s hanging on! Oh well – it’s only March, after all.
A lazy day – I slept until 11 a.m. It was so nice to wake up slowly – silently – no Danny Nevereath silliness on the radio – just the kitty-cats purring. There were two tunes on the answering machine – “Heart of Gold” & “Missing You” – or parts of songs, I should say. Anyway – I waited awhile & then called – knowing I shouldn’t but oh well. After Thursday – oh – I forgot to write about Thursday – it’s just as well – it’s not safe to write about stuff like that – especially if he’s going to start giving me money. I do need the money – it’s just – well – I know I am mad. I have to laugh – I never know if he’s telling the truth – he’s just – oh, the phone’s ringing –
It got really cold again last night. Spring is taking forever this year! The high today isn’t supposed to be any higher than 20. Oh well – I’m pretty immobile anyway. I’ve a cold, my period & my back is really bad – I’ve been getting sharp pains at the base of my spine for several days now. The pain is intense. I’m out of painkillers – I’m just doing ibuprofen – I wish I had some codeine, at least! Danielle gave me one the other day – maybe she’s got another one – I’m gonna call her in a minute. We’ve got to go to Canada & buy some 222’s. Maybe if Saturday is nice we can take a ride up there – along the Niagara Parkway – oh no – I’m working Saturday night – but oh well. I’m going to Dr. West’s tomorrow – I’d go today but the office is closed today – Dr. West & the girls are attending some seminar or something. I can’t get a break! To make things worse – John Grady came by & gave me a couple of cartridges – he told me not to worry about the bill & I told him I’d dedicate a book to him – but I’m in such pain – I can’t sit & type! Besides – Dr. West told me – no work-outs, no housework, no shopping, no walking – stay immobile, take lots of hot baths – so here I am, on the couch, lots of blankets, lots of pillows, books, notebooks, pens, cups of tea, kleenixes, two sleeping kitty-cats, “Hogan’s Heroes” on the TV – plus I’ve got joints so I’m not in a bad mood at all – I’m just hurting! Life’s so tough –
5:30 p.m. Yesterday I finally got to Dr. West’s. I was in such pain – plus I was supposed to meet Jesse at noon – but it took so long – by the time Danielle picked me up – 45 minutes late – dropped Deano & her mom’s – got gas – then waited forever at Dr. West’s – oh well. It was almost 1 before I got home. I saw him drive around the block & then park on Parkridge. I put on my jacket & went out. He was surprised to see me – he was trying to figure out how to leave a note without it being obvious. “Well, let’s have a drink,” I said & away we went. I’m drinking too much – this has got to stop. All of it – the façade is just too hard to maintain.
A long tough weekend. Tears on Sunday – I called home & there was no answer – they were up here – but no one ever told me – oh well – but around 6 p.m. – Tish, Brad, little Brad – whom they are now calling “Junior” – & Rocco stopped by. Rocco says he’s not becoming a priest.
Monday was gorgeous – in the 70s. Yesterday it rained – I went out with Jesse & got drunk. Heavy conversations – I don’t seem to be able to fight the feeling – knowing I should stop – but unable to – madness – total madness – oh dear, oh dear, oh dear!
Snowing & cold. You’d never know Monday broke heat records. It’s just not a few spring-like snow flurries – it’s beginning to pile up! What a drag!
Emotions still in a turmoil. I was with Jesse yesterday. He was in town, doing work on his houses & selling weed & pills. He’s really into those pills. Lortabs. I like them too but you have to be real careful how you drink on them. He’s so much bigger than I am that I don’t think it’s a problem for him. He said he’s going back to work soon & we won’t be able to see each other much anymore. I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
He drinks his Jack Daniels & Labatt’s Blue & gets drunk & talks. He goes on & on. “I love you, I want you – you’re the only woman for me – you are the only one.” But I can’t believe him – even if I did believe him – I really don’t want to believe. How can I believe him? He’s married to Doreen – he has a son & two daughters now – he’s never going to leave them! I know this! & even if he’s telling me the truth – that when the kids are “older” – which means out of school – I am assuming high school – so eighteen years from now! – am I supposed to wait around for him? Wait – eighteen years? For happiness? & what am I supposed to do in the meantime? Just be with him when it’s convenient for him? & besides – even though I love Jesse – & I really do – he’s not the man for me. If he was the man for me, he’d leave Doreen & be with me. He’d stop all these silly excuses about the kids & he’d work things out so I could be their part-time mother – I’d be good at it, too! Kids love anyone who loves them! But Jesse is never going to make that break. He wants me just where I am. & the thing is – I really do love Teddy! I really do. Teddy’s my husband & I’m happy this way. I suppose some people might not agree that I’m happy – with my drinking, my affairs, my tears, my confusion – but I am. The question is not – am I happy – but would I be happier? Jesse – of course – says I would be happier on my own – but I have my doubts – serious doubts. I don’t want to break up my happy home – I don’t want to break Teddy’s heart. Jesse says to stop thinking of everyone else first & think about me – make myself happy. But how can I be happy if I make Teddy unhappy? I can handle heartbreak & unhappiness – I can handle pain. But I’d never be happy again – knowing that I walked all over Teddy’s love. Jesse says that’s just guilt feelings. Well – so be it! Ya know – I may not be a Catholic anymore but I have not forgotten the teachings of my childhood – feeling guilt may be comfortable – even silly – but it’s there for a reason. I can’t ignore that little voice inside of me – I won’t. Sitting at the bar yesterday – doing shots & beers & listening to Patsy Cline on the jukebox – Jesse was giving me every argument in the book – telling me I had to make a decision – I had to start thinking of my own happiness, etc. I turned to him & said, “Listen, Jesse – I’m not ready to make any decisions & you can’t make me!” I think I surprised him with my vehemence. But I’m sick of this! Good sex is not worth this!
Besides all that, I just haven’t gotten any work done at all. Not beyond first drafts – how can you work when you’re sitting in a bar? Or when you’re home & drunk & upset after being begged to leave your home & family? Or sick & hungover & tired from drinking the day before? Or just so distracted you can’t concentrate? March has been one hell of a waste. Today is going much better – although instead of working, I’m staring out at the falling snow. Seems I’ve had a stomach ache all month long. Seems like this month will never end – I hate March! April will be better – I’m gonna work hard – finish my book – start a new one. No more drinking!