Excerpts From a Diary 37
We got home at 3 p.m. Coming home on the Thruway, I got totally bummed out – cuz of all the Deadheads on their way to the Grateful Dead concert at Rich stadium – I really wanted to go – lots more than I thought I would – & when we got home – Paulie & Javier were just leaving – the whole house smelled like pot & they were meeting friends who had acid – they strapped beers to the back of Paulie’s bike – I was so depressed! I really felt bad – even though the kitty-cats were so loving & so happy we were back – purring, purring, purring – & after a took a hot soapy bath & washed my hair – I did feel better – but the clincher is this – I finally got my period. It was so late I was beginning to worry – yes, I’m on the pill but you never know – but anyway – it occurred to me that if I had gone to the concert, I would have gotten my period at the show & that would have been a complete drag – especially if I had been tripping. So – talk about your silver linings – right?
Watching “Magnum P.I.” & smoking a joint. We just ate cheese, pepperoni & crackers – we have a lot of that stuff leftover from camping. We eat a lot more when it’s cooler. We have $10 for tonight’s dinner but we probably won’t eat until later on.
I slept until 9:30 this morning – I could’ve slept longer but I was hungry. We were out of bread so I went downstairs to borrow some from Paulie – he & Javier were partying – still tripping – Paulie gave me a cup of coffee with TripleSec in it & a fat joint & they preceded to tell me all about the concert – I must’ve gotten a contact high because soon I felt like I was tripping – later on – Javier went home & Paulie went to the store. Paulie came back with beer & chops & got out the grill & cooked up the chops, covering them with a mixture of hickory-flavor barbecue sauce, steak sauce & Tabasco sauce. They were killer. After that, I went upstairs & watched “Kiss Me Kate” on TNT – unpacking & doing dishes during the commercials. I’ve been out of it all day – I’m bleeding real heavy – really bad cramps – plus it’s a steamer of a day – I should have laid outside in the sun & improved my tan – but it’s too hot – too hot. They’re predicting thunderstorms for tonight – I’m hoping for a really good storm – lots of thunder & lightning – especially lightning.
Just had a great dinner – fried haddock, ranch fries & coleslaw – all from the Bailey Fish Market – on the corner of Bailey & LaSalle. It was really good. We gave bits of fish to the cats – who thought it was really good, too! Now we’re watching the evening news & smoking a joint. We picked up a really nice bag from Patty O. – only 2 grams short. Remember Patty O? From Cleveland? He’s living here in Buffalo now & selling weed & coke – & cars – that’s his straight job. I was so surprised to see him. He seems to know everyone everywhere he goes.
We’re not working tonight – & not doing any blow – unless Jesse’s man comes up with something – but we’ve been waiting 2 days already – Jesse said the dude is beginning to flake out. That’s the way it goes. I can’t tell you how many connections we’ve gone through – it always goes the same way – when the connect is new – everything’s great – the lines on the mirror are thick & long – the bags are overweight – he’ll front you a gram, two grams, an 8-ball – he’s in a great mood all the time – he will tell you that he doesn’t snort coke himself – he’s into it “for the money”. As the weeks/months progress – or digress, ha ha – the guy starts to party more – & the bags start being underweight – & he won’t front you anything anymore – cuz he’s most likely in debt to his man – there’s smaller & smaller lines on the mirror – until they disappear altogether – & then he does. & then you have to find a new connection. That’s why you always have to have more than one connection. It happens like that – with a few variations – every damn time. Anyway – we’re not partying tonight – not with coke, anyway. We have joints – & tortilla chips & salsa – & I can & probably will make some popcorn – it’ll be a nice, quiet evening. Meanwhile – I’m all ready to go – in case a party calls – you never know.
Hot. Sultry. Supposedly stormy but not yet – it’s clear now – totally clear – it looked stormier this afternoon.
Working hard, hard, hard. Working on the story – doing a new inventory of books. Tomorrow I’m going to the downtown library to get another load of books & study reference books I can’t take out. It’s supposed to be cooler tomorrow – I hope so – the outfit I’ve picked out will be uncomfortable if it’s anything like today – but I should be home by noon at any rate.
Raining. Thunder & lightning. The windows are closed – the fans are on. It’s hot – it’s summer – that’s for sure. But nowhere as hot & humid as last summer – not yet anyway. Up until today, it hasn’t been humid – just hot. Well – not since the holiday.
I’ve been working hard – inventorying my books – a slow job – working on the list of names & numbers – writing – housecleaning – closet cleaning – booking parties – creating new outfits. I’ve been feeling wonderful – not my body – my back & my knees are as bad as ever – but my head is good – I’m happy – unexplainably happy – must be this 6 year – I am just so happy playing with my books – my cats – slowing getting stuff written – sleeping a bit more – maybe – maybe my sleeping is just a higher quality than before – the only problem I’ve had recently is a migraine headache last night – put me to bed – & a foggy feeling this morning – I need an adjustment!
Hot, hot, hot – & humid. Steamy is the word. It was 74 at 7:30 this morning! It’s supposed to go up in the 90s today – yuck! No housework today. I dusted & maybe I’ll vacuum but it’s already so sultry that all I want to do is sit in front of a fan & read. I’ve closed the curtains to keep out the light. Where we don’t have curtains, I’ve hung sheets. I’m gonna stay cool no matter what.
The trick is to get up early & get as much done before it gets too warm – which is now – & then stay immobile the rest of the day – sleep through the afternoon – & then resume work in the cool of the evening. Not that the evenings cool off much. Every day, they’ve predicted thunderstorms & rain but it’s held off. Watch – it’ll be pouring Friday night – when I have 3 parties to do. I hate this weather!
Totally upset. No joints – maybe later on – but I feel awful – I swear – food doesn’t digest correctly if I don’t smoke a joint after dinner – the shrimp & French fries I ate feel like rocks in my belly – I feel like shit. Teddy & I have been bickering all evening.
Still no weed. Pat’s an asshole. We’ll see him tonight – he’s supposed to be dropping off some coke – but that won’t be 10 or later – probably later – Pat’s always late. We feel better than yesterday – who could feel worse – besides it’s cooler & a little less humid – it’s windy & looks like it could pour any second – but it’s looked like that all day. I got a lot done today – inventory, housecleaning, laundry. I’m dying to smoke a joint – but I guess I’ll have to wait.
Noon. Sleepy. Menstrual blues. Teddy’s home from work with a cold. I got bitten Saturday night – what’s wrong with these guys? – right inside the top of my leg – right into a muscle, which is probably why it hurts so much – it’s totally black. I’m just gonna hang out with Teddy & watch TV – read, sleep & throw the Tarot – I’m gonna try every spread I have – just for the fun of it.
Evening. I’ve been throwing the Tarot & trying out different spreads & drawing diagrams of spreads all day – except, of course, when I had to make dinner – & when I took my afternoon nap. I’m beat – but tomorrow I’m gonna do more – I have lots more spreads to try out. Besides it’s so much fun. You can’t help thinking of poems & stories & characters when you handle the cards. They tell me stories. The ideas go round & round in my head. Meanwhile – I study, I learn, I think about everything. I am not ready yet to use what I know. But soon – soon I will know what to do & how to do it.
Teddy didn’t go to work again today. Now both our throats are sore. We slept until 11 a.m. I got up – made coffee – took a bath & did my hair – cleaned the cat box – got the garbage together & took it out to the curb – & now we have steaming cups of coffee & a fat joint – regardless of our throats!
Afternoon. Watching a really dumb Eddie Cantor movie called “Kid Millions” – with Ethel Merman, Ann Sothern & George Murphy – dumb plot but good tunes – actually no plot. We’re just eating breakfast – cheese omelette, bacon & rye toast. Now an afternoon of dumb movies, joints, tarot cards & naps.
A hour later. The phone just rang. Teddy was in the bedroom sleeping & I was dozing on the couch & I let the call go to the machine. I heard this fantastic piano track – it was a song I didn’t recognize – I could pick up some of the lyrics – “so baby give me one last kiss – & let me take one long last look – before I say good bye” – & something about “the end of the innocence” – the piano sounded like Bruce Hornsby but it’s so hard to tell on the machine – oh well – the message is clear. I’m just glad Teddy is sleeping. I half expect to see Jesse trolling around the block. He’s got to see Teddy’s truck parked out front. But of course he can’t send music to my answering machine & drive by my house at the same time.
Night. I just put Teddy to bed. He’s been sleeping all evening anyway. I’ve been busy copying Tarot spreads from the notes in my diaries & the New Feminist Tarot. I see it’s gonna take me a long time to try each one out – but I’m gonna do it.
Teddy went back to work this morning & I went back to bed. I felt guilty for maybe thirty second before I fell into a dreamy sleep. I didn’t sleep long but I felt a lot better when I when I woke up. The light was on the machine when I walked into the dining room. I rewound the tape & played it. “All She Wants to Do is Dance” played on the answering machine. I had to laugh – the man does not give up.
I called Jesse. He took the day off from work to collect rents. He wanted to know if I wanted to meet for a drink.
“Sure,” I said.
I just came in from the porch. I didn’t really feel like laying in the sun but I was beginning to look rather sallow – so I kinda had to – it’s always better to look golden when you’re taking off your clothes in front of a room of drunk men. Plus – the right set of tan lines can be very slimming. Which I kinda need lately – the way I’m eating & drinking. I can’t keep the pounds off like I used to. Although part of me likes me a little more rounded.
I had the most delicious dream about Pat. He & Paulie had painted our living room blue – ceiling & all – & we were all drinking beer & smoking joints. Paulie went downstairs to get more beers & I went down on Pat – I remember perfectly the shape & largeness of his dick – & the wonderful taste of it – & his glistening semen. & I remember perfectly how after he came – he cupped my breasts in his hands – & kissed them again & again – until I woke up – too soon –
I have a lot to do today – housework, laundry, inventory, writing – running to the Credit Union to pull some money out of the account – always so much to do –
Added to my mixed-up emotions is the fact that Pat is here today to help Paulie paint the house. I guess Paulie is paying him. & I just had that dream about him!!
I just spent the last hour talking to Pat – I told him my dream – just looking into those large blue eyes – I was falling in love – I asked him about how he was able to party without drinking – he said he just didn’t want to drink. “It isn’t necessary,” he told me.
The last time I got sober, it was total abstinence. But maybe there’s another way? Maybe I can just stop drinking – & keep smoking weed. I know once I stop dancing, there won’t be any money for coke & I really don’t mind giving that up. Maybe just for special occasions. Holidays or birthdays.
Afternoon. Jesse just called. I’ll see him tomorrow – honestly, I don’t know if it’s Jesse who’s buying from Pat or Pat who’s buying from Jesse but the center point of the two is Teddy. I’m just trying to stay balanced. But feeling so good – so alive! Then Teddy called & told me that he’s been thinking about me all morning – am I loved or what? Who could ask for anything more?
Sitting in my office – the Dead on the tune box. Outside – Pat & Paulie are painting. Inside – I’m wet & wild & dreaming – dreaming of big fat cocks & a man with big blue eyes pushing it into me. Oh – whisper my name – just once! I’ll be there – I’ll be right there – waiting for you to cum & cum & cum again.
Evening. I went outside & hung out with Pat for a while – Paulie was on the tope scaffold. Puns – very bad puns – & dirty jokes were flying all around – Paulie was calling Pat “Norton” – which is wild, cuz I’ve always thought of Paulie as a Puerto Rican Ralph Kramden – Cindy is certainly Alice – anyway he had some weed so we came upstairs & smoked a fat joint – Paulie thought we were looking for something to stuff a bird’s nest hole so he stayed out there painting – anyway, we smoked this joint & talked – told bad back stories & Grateful Dead stories – & the sexual tension was out of sight – it was great – I love that tension – sometimes I think the tension is better than the release – & I’m gonna let this tension grow & grow & grow – cuz I got the feeling that the release is gonna be fantastic.
Well – I got totally smashed yesterday. I got home after Teddy did & we had a major argument – I ended up admitting that I was with Jesse – not that there was anything to tell – all we did was drink & talk & sing off-key – but of course, Teddy was really upset & hurt that was I was with Jesse. But whatever. Nothing to do but try harder – be more loving with Teddy – make up for being such a shit yesterday. I mean – it’s not like I did anything – Jesse & I do more talking about sex than having sex – usually we just get wasted. But I guess that’s enough.
Oh, I’m so upset! Teddy is such a jerk! I suppose I shouldn’t have lost my temper with him – but he pisses me off! I’m tired of him not listening to me – I’m tired of his stupid lectures! Oh – I wish he’d call back! He drives me nuts!
I’m watching “Show Boat” – the 1951 version with Ava Gardner – I saw the 1931 version a few months ago – they’re both great – I have been in tears all afternoon – I could play Julie – I could be Julie – “Can’t Help Lovin’ Dat Man of Mine” – it could be the story of my life. & that other song she sings – “Bill” – oh, I love that song –
Later. Teddy’s home & we’ve smoked a joint & are now fine & mellow. I made up a shopping list & sung him some songs from “Show Boat”. We’re going to the store after I finish my beer.
We went to the Erie County Fair today.
Tonight is the full moon. A full lunar eclipse – which we on the east coast will be able to see – for the first time since 1982 – if only the clouds clear!
Night. Smoking our last joint. Downstairs – Paulie & Pat are burning the old paint off the house – a very distinctive smell – I went out on the porch & flashed my pussy at them. Teddy is reading his Disney book. “Murder She Wrote” is on – it’s placed in Seattle – at a university that could be Becky’s – in a street scene, I saw a storefront with the sign – “Sacred Circle Gallery” – it must be so nice there! Downstairs – they’re blasting Janis Joplin – “Summertime” – this could be a movie I’m in – sure does seem like it sometimes – anyway – I always like hearing Janis.
9 p.m. There’s a ridge of clouds to the east but you can see the bright light through the wispy edges. It’s clear above. Soon the whole sky will be lit.
9:15 p.m. The skies have cleared & the moon is full, full. Bright & shiny.
9:45 p.m. The moon is half-obscured. Really impressive.
Sitting on the porch. Wonderful hot afternoon but lovely cool air – actually no humidity & a lovely breeze – I’m filled with joy – an amazing full joy. I can’t explain – visually I’m not tripping – but emotionally I am. Late summer joy! I wish I was camping!
Stomach flu. Depressed. No money – no weed – no beer. A weekend spent down in Lackawanna – after we were doing so well for so long! Parties cancelling – people being assholes on the phone – petty arguments with Teddy. Over it all – a constant pain in my belly – it feels so tender. Always sleepy but I can never sleep – my mind never shuts off – never leaves me alone. Sometimes I wish I were a bit of fluff. Sometimes I think life would be a lot easier.
Evening. We’ve been arguing all evening. We’re pulled tighter than a bowstring ready to release – I feel so awful. I’m so sick of never having any weed. Why is it always so dry around here? I know it isn’t in other parts of the country. It isn’t fair. On the news all you hear is “The Drug Problem” – what drug problem? The only drug problem I’m aware of is there’s not enough to go around.
At last – the end of the week. This was the longest week I’ve ever lived through. It was a drag! Tonight we have one party – tomorrow, three – maybe four – no cocaine all weekend – I mean, there’s no way we can afford it. Teddy really fucked us but good last weekend! Oh well – that’s water under the bridge I suppose.
Getting things ready for camping. We’re leaving Tuesday, after Teddy gets home from work. I can hardly wait to go – I need a break – I need to get away – get into the woods – away from the everything – all the assholes – all the stupid parties – everything – everything!
All the disappointments – lately – all the let-downs. Oh, this weekend will drag like molasses!
I woke up with such a pounding headache – another migraine – or maybe it’s just allergies – I feel like cement’s been poured into my head. Last night, we got fucked over on another job – this happens so often now I almost feel like I’m being hired because guys know I’m reliable & then try to hire another girl & just use me if they can’t get someone else. It’s like my good reputation is working against me. Anyway – last night the guy who hired me told me that because I hadn’t gotten there at 10:30 “on the dot” – that guys had left & they couldn’t pay me my full amount – which didn’t make sense of course – & being me I said so – I said, “What, they left & took the money they had paid to get in? Because the dancer wasn’t here? Even though they ate & drank?” – He said yes! – Fucking liar! I couldn’t believe it – smiling & lying to my face like that – I mean, what kind of bimbo do they think I am? I said, “That’s not how it works & you know it!” I was pissed. Teddy stepped in – “Just so there’s no hard feelings, we’ll leave,” but of course that’s what they wanted anyway. They probably had another girl coming & didn’t want us intersecting. As I was leaving, someone pressed $40 into my hand & said, “Thanks for showing up anyway.” At least there’s still a few gentlemen in the world.
Busy. Packing to go camping – we’re leaving tomorrow when Teddy gets out of work – today I’m doing laundry – packing all the clothes – all the non-perishable food – books, games, etc. When Teddy gets home, we’re going to get wood & then we’ll pack the trailer. Tomorrow I’ll make tuna-mac salad – Teddy’s favorite – & finish cleaning the house – & do some writing. When he gets home, he’ll take a quick bath – I’ll have already taken mine – while I load the coolers & pack the last minute items. I’m dying to go. On Saturday night, I worked 3 parties – without coke – & it was the first day of my period, too – so I got drunk – & Teddy & I had a giant argument on the way home which continued at home & into the next day – he wasn’t going to go shopping for the trip but I managed to persuade him to anyway – & shopping put him into a better mood – me, I was hungover & just as soon have done it some other time – except there really wasn’t any other time – I had to get sick twice at Wegman’s. I came out of the stall after puking & this lady was there giving me this look so I said, “I don’t know if I can do nine months of this,” & her expression softened & she said, “Oh you poor dear” – am I bad or what?
Well – I gotta get back to work – lots to do today.
Teddy’s gone already – off to an early start – so he can get out of work as early as possible – which won’t be any earlier than 3 p.m. After we finished loading everything up, we have to run over to Jesse’s house for the half o.z. he dropped off last night – I knew Jesse would come through! Everything’s fallen into place. We blew off getting a bottle of Kahlua – as well as a few other things – to save money – we still have Kahlua in the bottle from the last camping trip – I wish I hadn’t hit on it so much these last few weeks! Oh well – it’s still gonna be a great trip!
Sampson State Park, Romulus, N.Y. Up early! Turned on the Today Show to get the weather report. We can only get 2 stations here – both from Elmira-Corning. That’s ok – we don’t plan to watch much TV here anyway! We went to bed early – no later than 10:30 – we were beat! It was really hot & humid last night – by the time we got here – got set up – & ate a couple of hot dogs – we were really tired. We didn’t even start a campfire.
We’re on site #169 – great numbers – reduces to 7 – & there’s large old oak tree here. Most sites were filled – we were really bummed out. But then we found this one – such good vibes here!
The first joint of the day has been smoked – time for walnut meltaway & cups of coffee!
A perfect day. Riding – boating – eating – drinking – smoking – now listening to “Old & In The Way” – throwing the Tarot – I couldn’t leave my cards at home, could I? I dream all the time about the people in the Tarot – they have become people I know – in my own life & in the life of the Tarot. I think in terms of the Tarot.
Cold & stormy. Raining & windy. Seneca Lake is dark blue – chopping – filled with appearing & disappearing white-caps.
I keep hearing acorns hitting the roof of the trailer & tumbling off. & the sound of raindrops. I love the sound of the rain on the canvas.
I put Don Henley on. “The Boys of Summer.” “I can see you, your brown skin shining in the sun – ” – Who can I see? Today I’m thinking about Donovan Murphy – “Out on the road today, I saw a Deadhead sticker on a Cadillac – ” – of course, there’s a Deadhead sticker on our truck – Teddy’s & mine – Teddy, who is sitting right next to me & munching on Cracker Jacks & reading Nashville Babylon. Every now & again, he’ll tell me some tidbit. We smoke joints, munch out & read. Maybe later, we’ll play backgammon – maybe even Yahtzee or Gun Rummy – & most likely take a nap – what else do you do on a rainy day camping?
We’re making some burgers. We forgot to have dinner! It’s been a gorgeous day – warm, sunny – we had a wonderful time – ended up by fucking – the first time since Labor Day last year – & then sleeping for over 2 hours! – took a long time to wake up, too. Anyway, we smoke some joints & took a cruise – watched the sun set over Seneca Lake – then made a camp fire – when I realized – “Gee, we never had dinner!” “No wonder why I’m so hungry,” Teddy said. We laughed.
Another lovely day. Not so warm as yesterday, perhaps – a bit more windy. We went for a cruise this morning – stopped & bought a half a dozen donuts. We just finished breakfast sandwiches– fried eggs with Canadian bacon & melted American cheese & fried onions on a roasted & buttered English muffin– really excellent. Now we’re inside the camper – Teddy is cleaning roaches. We’re getting low on everything – weed, money, beers, food. But that’s alright – we’re going home Tuesday morning anyway. Needless to say – part of me can’t wait to go – I’m homesick & I miss my kitty-cats so much!
Afternoon. Just woke up. Teddy’s still sleeping. It’s probably the hottest part of the day – right now. You can hear the drone of the boats on the lake. I’m drinking a beer – oh – Teddy just woke up.
Evening. I have been dreaming about Pat – I can’t believe how often. Someone I was with – once – a long time ago – so long ago it’s almost like we were never together – I’ve changed so much from the girl I was in 1980. & I may never be with him again – I don’t know what the future holds. He’s stopped by a few times – but of course just as many times – if not more – he’s here to sell weed or coke to Teddy or Paulie – or to paint the house – he’s painted far more of the house than Paulie has. I know he wants me – he knows I want him. He admits he’s playing hard to get. I admit that I don’t mind. It’s so tough – having a husband & a lover – too tough.
But it’s really tough having a husband who only makes love to you once a year.
Why do I need this? I don’t know why but I do. I’m not so sure that I really want to change, either. But sometimes change is imposed upon you & there’s no other way – like trying to stop the phases of the moon or the turning of the earth upon its axis.
People are pulling up stakes – folding or rolling up sleeping bags – pulling out jacks & going home. The people across the street were gone by 8 a.m. The one guy was really attractive – a big guy, a little stooped – must have a bad back – curly hair, mustache – definitely not poster material but there was something about him – he had to be a Taurus – at least a Taurus rising or moon in Taurus – he had those bovine good looks. A real nice ass, too.
Anyway – we should have this place to ourselves tonight. We’re almost out of cash – we’re almost out of everything.
Afternoon. Sitting by the lake on a log that obviously was once driftwood. It a beautiful day – not a cloud in the sky. Lots of sails on the lake – windsurfers, catamarans & sailboats – they look so pretty.
I don’t want to leave – but I’m so homesick at the same time. Always two things going on in me – always conflict.
All packed up & ready to go. Just smoking our past joint. Teddy’s gonna roll up two roaches while I break the circle I cast last week. Then a quick pee & we’re off.
We have to stop in Geneva & stop at the bank – at the Bell’s supermarket – & return our bottles – that’s how broke we are. That’s life.
Night. Home again. We got here around 1:30 – Teddy ran downtown to get money from the credit union – then we ordered a pizza. After we ate, we took a nap – the kitty-cats with us – they really missed us! It is so nice to be loved the way they love us. I woke up when Shadows started licking my lips – that rough tongue will wake anyone – oh, I hugged & kissed them a thousand times! I missed them so much!
I’m real glad to be home. I’ve already booked a party for Saturday.
Later. We just got back from an excellent ride on the bike. We had to go out to Jesse’s for another quarter o.z. So then we stopped at Imperial Taco & Burrito for a quick bite & at Wilson Farms for some groceries. It’s a really beautiful night.
Teddy doesn’t have to go back to work until next Tuesday or Wednesday. We’re going to ride a lot – go on day trips – do the things we’ve wanted to do & never have to time or the money to do – play putt-putt – repot the plants – go to Zoar Valley – etc. Teddy is still moaning that he wishes that we were still camping but I’m so glad we’re home.
3:25 p.m. We just got back from a cruise to Darien Lake State Park – it was closed – & we were going to go to Evangola State Park but it started to rain so we stopped in at Alton’s for a truly horrible lunch & now we’re home again. I feel so fatigued. Lately, it seems all I want to do is sleep. But I can’t get to sleep or I do sleep but I get woken up too soon, too often – I can’t sleep for more than an hour or two at a time. It’s really a drag.
I feel mildly depressed – I feel fat & ugly – & I hate my hair. I guess that’s life.
Just finished cleaning the house. Did some laundry – finished another book on the Tarot – made an old outfit into a new one – what else? I have been dying to party. You know – cocaine blues. Darryl just called – we could go into debt tonight – but oh well – it just can’t be done. I’ve got three parties tomorrow & one on Sunday – so we’ll get a little bit tomorrow night. I’m gonna take a bath in a little while & then make dinner. We’ll take a cruise on the bike tonight – we would’ve gone somewhere today but until about an hour ago, it looked like it was going to pour. Later on, we’ll stop in at Falco’s.
I guess I’ll go mix myself an afternoon cocktail.
Evening. I was doing a Tarot reading & the phone rang – I was engrossed with the cards & I let the machine get it – nobody spoke & in the background, I could get the chorus of “The End of the Innocence” – I had been looking at the Strength card & thinking about recovering from addiction & if being with guys like Jesse was an addiction & then the phone rings – does he have emotional radar or what? Maybe he really does have locks of my hair – maybe he really has me in bondage – but wouldn’t the Devil card be more apropos?
I was wondering why my relationship with Teddy isn’t more rewarding. The II of Cups card came up & the meaning is “deep love affair or spiritual union” & “relationship with a kindred soul” – & I always think – Who is that person? Who? – Why can’t it be Teddy? Oh, we’re alike but it’s not like he’s a poet or a musician or artist or something obviously creative. Maybe that’s why I’ve never really taken the relationship seriously. I know that sounds terrible & it isn’t easy admitting it. But it’s got to be true – I love him so very much – but it’s our major difference. That & sex. But sex is a creative act – so maybe that’s how it ties in. I do love Teddy – terribly so – & I don’t want to live without him. But I want a resolution. Is it possible?
Another card that came up was the Queen of Swords, in this case reversed – it was in the position which told of the “Intellect & working life of the Querent” – which would be me, of course – “A woman lacking in compassion – sharp – jealous – a woman absorbed in patriarchal modes & values – ruthless.” Am I ruthless? I guess so. I go for what I want & I get it. Usually, anyway. But I wouldn’t say I lack compassion – I really wouldn’t. & – as a stripper – I can’t help being absorbed in patriarchal modes. After all – the whole marriage scene – the engagement parties, stag parties, showers, the entire wedding production – the rehearsal dinner, the wedding itself, the reception, the honeymoon – it’s all a celebration of patriarchy. I think I do the best I can to maintain my feminist ideals. It’s not easy – I admit that. & I do admit that I’m tough – I’m very tough. I can be sharp – I can be a primadonna – I can be a bitch. Sometimes I have to be – they don’t have any respect if I don’t act like that. They’ll walk all over me if I’m sweet & nice & retiring. I do admit that I’m bitchy more than I ought to be or even like being. I could say that I had to become this way because of the business I’m in but not only is this not true but it isn’t even a valid excuse.
“The Heart of the Matter” – the Queen of Cups – another part of me – ya know – I always pick the Queen of Pentacles as my significater – if the spread demands one – cuz I identify with her most closely – the earth & money & creativity. But I identify with all the Queens – I am all the Queens. Anyway – the heart of the matter is the Queen of Cups – the Queen of Hearts – which is what Jesse always called me – probably because of that line in “Desperado” – “Don’t you draw the Queen of Diamonds, boy, she’ll beat you if she’s able, The Queen of Hearts is always your best bet” – Anyway – The Queen of Cups is the emotional, romantic, poetic, sentimental, yearning, wanting to be heard part of me – the other side of the Queen of Swords. I would love to be the Queen of Cups but I have to be the Queen of Swords. I don’t want to – but I made my choice – I chose Teddy – I chose stripping as a job – as a way to make a living – which means I have to be a Queen of Swords & not a Queen of Cups – & I chose stripping for very practical reasons – Queen of Pentacle reasons – for money – which is really ironic, when you consider than I never have any money – anyway – the Queen of Cups is very strong in me – no matter how many times the Queen of Swords may cut her down, she always grows back. & because of the choices I’ve made, I’ve had to deny her – sacrifice her – silence her. & ya know – it just ain’t working. She wants to be heard – she wants to live – to grow – to thrive.
Depressed. Striving to stay cheerful. I had three parties last night & two cancelled – we spent all our money on coke – I have a party tonight but $100 goes to Jesse & $50 to Doug – leaving nothing for us – unless I make a lot of money in tips. Oh, I’ve got to!
The stress of living like this is really getting to me – my stomach aches continually – I just don’t know what to do. I’m gonna apply at AM&A’s & Berger’s downtown for a part-time position – not that either of those places pay much – but I’ll feel a little better. I could make lots more as a barmaid but – let’s face it – bars are not good for my health or my marriage.
I’m going nuts. I feel like I’m being crushed by debt. I can’t even afford to buy typewriter cartridge. What kind of writer can I be without a typewriter?
Well – might as well pop a couple of Rolaids & put on my make-up. Try to stay cheerful – anyway I can.
We are starting to talk of moving. There’s been a “House for Sale” sign in the window downstairs. I asked Cindy about it & she said Paulie wanted to sell it after he finished painting it. Paulie has been really pricky to us – overnight he has turned into a total dickhead. It’s funny how throughout the last 8 years that I’ve known Paulie, I’ve seen him lose every friend he’s ever had, so now it’s my turn. I know what it is – I refused to have sex with him this month when we were late with the rent. I just don’t want to do it anymore – I feel like such a whore – I guess it was when Pat started hanging out all the time – painting the house – & Paulie would come up & want to do me & I didn’t want to with Pat right there – that’s when all the problems started. Hanging out with Pat & talking about AA & Buddhism & women’s spirituality & religion & – I guess I’m getting prudish in my old age but that’s the way it is. So now Paulie’s being a prick & apparently we’re going to have to move.
I mean – that’s life. Paulie hasn’t been speaking to us at all. Today – trying to be friendly – like there wasn’t a problem – I asked him where they wanted to move. He told me that they were being “forced out.” “Forced out?” I asked. “Why? How so?” “Forget it,” he answered & shut the door in my face. I mean I know what’s going on. & even without the sex – I mean – being a week late with the rent isn’t going to “force” them “out” of anywhere. I mean – until recently – both of them – as city employees – had to live within city limits! That just changed & they can move to the suburbs if they want to! & I know Cindy wants to – she’s from Williamsville. Marco is almost school-age & naturally she wants him to go to school in the suburbs. That’s what I figure they’re going to do! So what’s this being “forced out” BS? & what the fuck – they both work & the both make good salaries – it’s not like the rent Teddy & I pay them are going to break their bank account. What’s the big deal? Why don’t that sell that car that’s been sitting in the back yard – for the last year? & what about Paulie’s new motorcycle? Buy a bike & lose your house? None of this makes sense. Could the fact that I’m not giving Paulie his blowjobs be that important? What’s really going on?
Anyway – who knows & who cares. I’ve started reading the real estate section of the newspaper. Actually – it’s kind of exciting! Moving’s a drag but – maybe this is the change I need!
Teddy went back to work this morning – vacation’s over! It seemed like he was off forever. I felt like a mother sending her child off to school for the first day – part of me sad to see him go – part of me glad. Drinking my coffee alone. Making up a list of chores – mending, straightening up the house, putting the couch back together again – trying to smooth out the sag in the cushion where Teddy always sits – making myself a nice small breakfast – poached egg on toast – not the giant ones Teddy always wants – like steak & eggs or pancakes & sausage or eggs, bacon & home fries. Oh well! Time to get busy – I want to get a lot done today.
Raining. Steady rain – it’s been raining all day. Watching a college football game. Just ate a piece of apple pie – boy, can I bake ’em or what!
I dreamed I was with Darryl scoring blow last night. I was picking up an 8-ball to bring home for Teddy. We were doing the deal in the guy’s bathroom – he was sitting in an empty bathtub as he took care of business. Darryl cook up a rock as big as my thumb. I was doing hits off the pipe & worrying that I was taking too long & Teddy would be mad at me.
I’ve got two parties tonight – not until later on. Might as well take a nap – sleeping’s good on a wet afternoon. I hope it’s not raining tonight.
God – I feel so fatigued – I slept really lousy last night – Missy kept waking me up – stupid dreams – I got up this morning & busted ass cleaning the house – doing laundry – all my costumes – changed the cat box – took the garbage out – stripped & remade the bed – then took a bath & washed my hair. Now I feel exhausted. I should get to work on my resume & get it sent into Canisius College but I’m too lazy – plus I really want to go back to UB – I really only want to go back to UB – I don’t know why but it’s like I started out there & I want to finish there. At least my BA.
I’m gonna sit & read & sip some chicken soup & maybe take a catnap – then maybe I’ll work on it – or maybe I’ll just inventory some books or work on a story or some poems. I really don’t know what to do – I just feel so worn out.
Afternoon. I did a Tarot reading & the outcome was the King of Cups & as I was laying it down, the phone rang & it was Jesse again – amazing how that works – I picked it up – he said he went to the doctor & his back is all messed up from pipefitting so many years & he’s got a script for hydrocodone & he’s going to be selling at least half of them. If case Teddy’s interested. Or me. I know that I’m interested but I know I don’t have the money to be spending on pills.
Years seem to have passed since last Tuesday. We’ve been told to get out of our apartment – so we went right out & found a new one – put some money down & sign a lease. Now I can hardly wait to go. The place is a lot smaller than this one – we’ll have to store a lot of our furniture – at least until we figure out what to do with it all – sell it or give it away – it’ll be really a hassle moving – eight years in one place – I’ve never lived so long in one place! We’ve accumulated so many possessions! I don’t really want to deal with any of this at all.
We stopped in to see Shera – I mentioned that I had was into the Tarot & she said she did readings too – she showed me her Wiccan tools & her altar – I would so love to have an altar like that – but in this new place it’s going to be impossible. I can’t believe we’re going to live in a place this tiny. & it’s downstairs too. I hate living downstairs.
Anyway – Shera & I are supposed to get together on Saturday & make wreathes – I don’t know if it’ll actually happen – but just the fact that we talked about witchy things & she offered to teach me – I feel like life is changing for the better – even as I am so depressed about moving – there is hope
Change, change – happening so fast – after such a long time – it’s hard to believe that I’m moving. I’ve lived here longer than anywhere I’ve ever lived.
I’m so excited. All I can think about is moving. In my mind about is moving. In my head, I’ve already moved in & am unpacking & putting them on the shelves. It’s gonna be the coziest place. We’ll have to strip down & essentials – half our furniture will have to be stored or given away – of course we’ll use as much as we can stuff in – & I won’t re-do the collage – at least not right away – it’s falling apart from the effects of gravity – I wish I could keep it together somehow. I plan to only hang the framed pictures – my personal artwork will be stored. I won’t need to use my knick-knack shelf as a spice rack anymore, so that will be stored too. Just about everything is being stored – everything except the books & I have no idea how I’m going to fit them all in. I can hardly wait to set up the kitchen – the fridge is modern & huge – there’s a large freezer & real hydraters & it’s frost-free – I won’t have to defrost it every month anymore – the only fly in the ointment is that the stove’s electric – but I’ll learn to deal with that.
Oh – I just looked out the window & the sunset’s absolutely killer! Soft blue & pink & grey & purple & orange – bands of colored clouds shifting hues & positions.
Urgh – out of weed. But in a good mood. Teddy found a place to store the trailer for only $20 & it’s nearby. On Sunday, we’re putting the bike away. It seems like we just brought it out of storage. But we want to put it away before we go on vacation – we don’t want it unattended while we’re gone – you just never know – Paulie’s such a flake. The arguments downstairs are never-ending – I woke up this morning to the sound of angry voices & accusations. Oh well – soon we’ll be out of here.
I read & wrote poetry all day – worked hard on “The King of Cups” – just like my love affair with Jesse – it is getting out of hand – it’s over two pages long! But it reads well & sounds good. I’ll set it aside for a few months & then go back to it & probably edit out half of it! That’s the way it works! I read every single one of my poems last night – I don’t know about anyone else – but I sure do like what I write – I think it’s pretty damn good!
Urgh! Really frustrated. No weed – still – got taken advantage of by Darryl – again! – I’m so tired of this! Here it is – after dinner – & no after-dinner joint – I have a quart of Blue in the fridge but what the fuck – I wanna get high – not drunk!
Other than that – today was OK. I went over to UB to read. I had only finished one book when the fire alarm went off & everyone had to evacuate the building. I decided to go over the UGL & read some more. On the way over, I ran into a guy – not a student – he was wearing a tie & jacket & was carrying a brief case – he said he worked for Harper & Row. “Oh yeah?” I said. “I’m a writer.” “Oh yeah?” he replied. “May I buy you lunch?” We went to Norton Union & got pizza & apples. We talked – he’s 41 – married – no kids – lives in Rochester – deals mostly in textbooks – but he has friends who deals in novels & poetry. He seemed really interested in my novel – but of course he was really interested in me. We’re supposed to get together on Tuesday so I can show him some of my work – I wonder what else he would like to see? I guess I don’t wonder – he was certainly horny enough. I don’t give a damn about that – I just want to get published.